tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post6995042832987731308..comments2023-12-25T06:13:57.212-04:00Comments on Eden Connor: Dirty Mind vs Debit Card: Women Desire Taboos in Their EroticaEden Connorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04190711362614433784noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-9247714356759577422012-03-05T17:21:29.881-04:002012-03-05T17:21:29.881-04:00I've read a lot of non-erotica that tells abou...I've read a lot of non-erotica that tells about the pleasure of hurting others - thrillers, fiction, etc. all seems to have numerous books.<br /><br />The problem is that they're making the distinction that I can read about, say, rape or abuse in a fiction story that arguably glamorizes the crime, but if the book was sold as an 'erotica' it wouldn't be allowed.<br /><br />The problem with banning things based on personal tastes is that everyone has different ideas of what 'not acceptable' means.<br /><br />Thank you for reading and commenting! I'm glad you enjoyed it.Anjasahttp://www.jmkeep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-43838454277975633072012-03-05T17:18:53.091-04:002012-03-05T17:18:53.091-04:00I can definitely understand that, Sessha. I don...I can definitely understand that, Sessha. I don't mean to diminish other people's kinks or desires - we should all be free to explore our fantasies in consensual manners. Just because something doesn't do it for me doesn't mean it shouldn't do it for another!Anjasahttp://www.jmkeep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-86467973964043774222012-03-05T17:17:30.087-04:002012-03-05T17:17:30.087-04:00Gaiman says pretty much everything I want to say i...Gaiman says pretty much everything I want to say in such an eloquent manner. It doesn't even just apply to this, but to all laws - they are hammers. We need to be very careful of the implications of laws, even laws we agree with in spirit, because they can be very easily abused.<br /><br />Thank you for reading!Anjasahttp://www.jmkeep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-2012409237339624722012-03-05T16:50:43.978-04:002012-03-05T16:50:43.978-04:00I suppose it mostly boils down to how much you val...I suppose it mostly boils down to how much you value spontaneity in erotica.<br /><br />Thanks for reading!Anjasahttp://www.jmkeep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-85225664852198897102012-03-05T16:49:39.033-04:002012-03-05T16:49:39.033-04:00Women want to be treated like adults.
I find the ...Women want to be treated like adults.<br /><br />I find the infantilization of women to be a huge problem - this idea that adult women are unable to make responsible decisions, especially when it comes to sex and sexuality. It's been seen for years in legal sex work like pornography and stripping, and it seems like this is the newest example.<br /><br />Thank you for reading the interview, I'm glad you enjoyed it!Anjasahttp://www.jmkeep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-29143201731056662382012-03-05T15:15:12.536-04:002012-03-05T15:15:12.536-04:00"Ritual can be a great deal of fun but when t..."Ritual can be a great deal of fun but when the formalities take over the substance, something is lost." <br /><br />For just a moment, my mind wandered to comments I've heard about organized religion. Or did I make those? Halfheimers. It can be painful.:DEden Connorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04190711362614433784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-79918445863014138222012-03-05T11:17:26.734-04:002012-03-05T11:17:26.734-04:00I think that for some, the ritual IS the turn on -...I think that for some, the ritual IS the turn on - for others it's the aggression, for others constriction, or pain - I'm sure the motives are as varied as the acts themselves. The thing about ritual is it takes time, time builds anticipation, moves you toward your desired headspace long before anything sexual happens, I think that's why it is such a big part of BDSM. Of course, that's just my take on it (and it could be my OCD talking, I have rituals for everything)Sessha Battohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15569927397738788073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-35620525509590250772012-03-05T10:57:59.856-04:002012-03-05T10:57:59.856-04:00Very very good! I think if stories seem to tell ab...Very very good! I think if stories seem to tell about pleasures of hurting another person, that is not acceptable. And of course underage or helpless party neither. But if it is to show the victim's side or the 'why are these things committed'-stories, then that's going to help to prevent crimes - and help perpetrators as well as victims. If it is about two people's enjoyment,even if it is a 'strange habit', no after-effects that are bad, I can read it and enjoy it too.<br />Say NO to censoring! Unless cases I mentioned, what do you say?Chrissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05399854186300993854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-67356463671798784862012-03-05T10:29:26.760-04:002012-03-05T10:29:26.760-04:00A terrific interview! I agree with you on BDSM. Ve...A terrific interview! I agree with you on BDSM. Very early on in my current relationship, my partner and I had a discussion about the trappings of BDSM, the prevalence of black leather and silver ornamentation. Ritual can be a great deal of fun but when the formalities take over the substance, something is lost.<br /><br />Thank you for adding in that link on Gaiman's essay. That's not one I'd seen before and it was a good read too.Corinna Parrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01929134492205392673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-44709119554644411142012-03-05T08:48:24.718-04:002012-03-05T08:48:24.718-04:00Isn't that the truth?
As each one arrives in...Isn't that the truth?<br /> <br />As each one arrives in my inbox,I'm progressively more awed. It's beginning to seem the real dirty secret has been the emotional value women find in this base of literature.<br /><br />(chuckle)I always knew this was a feminist issue. I just didn't suspect it cut so deep. There's a good theme for a dissertation in here somewhere.Eden Connorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04190711362614433784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-23871412173559893272012-03-05T08:13:31.927-04:002012-03-05T08:13:31.927-04:00Wonderful interview! I really enjoyed that. And ye...Wonderful interview! I really enjoyed that. And yes, I find formalized BDSM very cold myself. Not a fan of stylization.Remittance Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07902713020074243375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4438831558727594666.post-1382368185606356452012-03-05T07:32:16.255-04:002012-03-05T07:32:16.255-04:00Another amazing conversation and yet another set o...Another amazing conversation and yet another set of reasons why. They seem to be so individual, yet there is one common theme - women want to choose for themselves what to read and write and why, just as we want to choose our own sexual partners based on our own preferences. Difference is what makes society exciting and engaging - how interesting would the world be if we all thought alike! Thank you, Anjasa, for sharing with us - and thank you again, Eden, for conceiving and hosting the amazing series of posts!Sessha Battohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15569927397738788073noreply@blogger.com